Feb. 21, 2024
Navigating Divorce and Drama on the Knucklehead Chronicles Podcast"
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Join Terry on another episode of Knucklehead Chronicles Podcast. This episode focuses on respecting personal boundaries and emphasizes the importance of minding one’s business. Listen as Terry candidly shares his firsthand experience with divorce, family matters, and the toxicity of being a part of other people's business.
Terry delves into the bitterness and chaos linked to others meddling in matters that don't concern them. He narrates a personal story about getting unexpectedly attacked on social media by people who were misinformed and not directly involved in the dispute. This experience leads him to raise an important question: How many people would react differently towards you if they knew your side of the story?
Tune in as Terry reflects on this incident and brings forth insightful thoughts about the dangers of involving oneself in the conflicts of others, especially when they lack a full understanding of the situation. His empowering message echoes the importance of minding your own business, promoting understanding, and discouraging unnecessary drama.
Visit knuckleheadchroniclespodcast.podbean.com to tune in to this eye-opening episode, subscribe to the podcast, and stay tuned for new episodes.
00:00 - Introduction
00:58 - Dealing with Divorce Drama
07:44 - Mind Your Own Front Door
09:49 - Controlling the Narrative
11:51 - Mind the Business that Pays You
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All right, guys, welcome to another episode of the Knucklehead Chronicles podcast.
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It is your boy, Terry. We are getting into another episode. This episode today,
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it will be entitled, Mind Your Business.
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There are so many people that just will not mind their business.
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It's not even funny. So if you got this into episode one, you're going to be in tune.
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If you haven't listened to episode one, you're going to be a little lost, but it's okay.
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I want you guys to stay tuned. I'll be right back.
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Music.
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And what's going on? Welcome to another episode of Knucklehead Chronicles Podcast.
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Like I said before, it is your boy Terry. I am back. This is episode two of this podcast.
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Now, if you listen to any of episode one on yesterday, you're going to be in good hands.
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Like I said before, if you have not, you need to go to knuckleheadchroniclespodcast.podbean.com,
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and check out the newest episode.
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The last episode was named One Day at a Time. It was about mental health and
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all that in my last episode.
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So this one, though, I'm going to get a little, I'm not going to say petty,
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but we're going to get this a little bit more in depth.
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Now, what I did today, I'm doing something a little bit different.
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I got my TikTok audience with me today.
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So I might be looking over and commenting on some stuff that we were talking
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about earlier on my TikTok live.
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So if you don't follow me on TikTok, follow me at D-A-G-U-R-U 2022 on TikTok.
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You can follow me on that.
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Okay so we're gonna get into it now i
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don't want to sound petty i don't mean to sound petty right i
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don't petty is not my forte well
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not anymore i used to be being petty to be my thing but it's not i'm not gonna
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be petty anymore but those of you guys know that i went through this divorce
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with my ex and i was in a dark place and i took a road trip on one weekend i
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went down to north North Carolina to see my grandkids.
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Those of you guys that know me have five grandchildren that I love dearly.
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And because I was in such a bad place, I went down to see them.
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In the midst of going down to see them, you know, I had some interactions with
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my ex on the phone on the way down there.
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And it got really, really tricky. It involved some money.
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And it's just a long story. We don't get to that because that'll bring the petty.
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If I get to that, it's going to bring the petty out of me. I don't want to be petty, right?
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So I don't want to be petty at all. So I get down.
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And once I get down to my daughter's house and I'm playing with my grandkids,
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you know, I get this message on Instagram from one of my ex's friends.
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You know, one of my ex's friends, actually two of them, I get,
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they get on, they hit me up on Instagram. that was all nosy and,
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you know, you shouldn't be like that.
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You should have did that. Why you do it like this and that and the third?
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Why you go running and all that good stuff?
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And I'm like, all I did was go visit my grandkids.
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But, because my ex controlled the narrative, they were under the impression that I just left.
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You know, I left the state of Missouri and was like, gone. Good. Good.
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But they proceeded to attack me on social media.
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I mean, they attacked me. They was like, I'm going to do a, one of them was on TikTok.
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And she was like, I'm going to do a video exposing you and all this other good
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stuff here. And I'm like, exposing me for what? What are you talking about? You know?
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And so I went and this attack happened to me for about two hours.
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I mean, it was, it was nonstop messages from them to where, to the point where
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I had to end up blocking them on social media.
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Because I thought I had blocked all of her friends and family anyway on social
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media, but apparently I didn't. So I had to go back and I had to block the social media.
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And so I text her, I say, hey, your friends are attacking me on social media.
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She's like, oh, I didn't tell them to do that.
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I said, you a whole lot. You a whole lot. Because the thing is that when people
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can't control the narrative, if people can control the narrative.
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They don't say anything.
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Can you imagine how many people would not be mad at you if they knew your side of the story?
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Think about it for a second. You have people who will demolish you over somebody else.
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Like, okay, you got a friend and she has a hook and she tells you,
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oh, he ain't nothing. He ain't did nothing. He's lazy. That's not whatever.
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She's controlling the narrative, right? Right.
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But if you would if you were to go and ask him what was going on,
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he will tell you, well, she does.
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She does this, that, the third, the other thing. Right.
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You will be easier. It'll be it'll be easier for you to say,
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OK, wait, let me go ahead and back this thing down a little bit. Let me see if both sides.
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But when one person controls the narrative, it gets tricky.
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Again, and I ask it to everybody who's listening, listen, imagine how many people.
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Would not be mad at you simply if they heard your side of the story.
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So because of what happened between me and my ex, I had these folks attacking
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me, not knowing the whole story, which I'm not going to give the whole story
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because it's not my story to tell. You know what I'm saying?
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But I just thought I got attacked.
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I need for you folks to mind your business.
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If you are in a situation and you got a friend, if he does not affect you directly,
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mind your business. this.
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The problem, people is in everybody else's business. They're in everybody else's business.
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It's just like one of my friends said here on TikTok, only Lori,
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she said, you know, friends have, they have this thing to where they get this.
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Friends tell you if you are having a good marriage or not. Your friends will
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tell you if you're having a good marriage or not.
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What, you can't come to your own conclusion about that? You don't know?
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You know what I'm saying? If your friends have to tell you, oh girl, he ain't nothing.
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Oh girl, he broke. Oh, girl, he this. Oh, girl, he that.
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If your friends are going to tell you that you are in a good or a bad relationship
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or situation, you're doing this wrong.
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You're doing it wrong. And sometimes we have to stop and take a breath.
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It's like, wait a minute. Maybe. You know.
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But I need for people to mind their business. You have your own struggles.
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These two people that attacked me were people that had their own struggles in life going on.
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They had their own struggles. One was homeless.
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The other one had some health issues or whatever.
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They had their own struggles. You don't have time to worry about what's going on between me and mine.
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But you're quick. You're quick. Hey, Kisa. But you're quick. That's TikTok.
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You're quick to tell somebody else your opinion about somebody else. Look.
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Mind yours. Keep it moving. If you don't have a solution to the problem,
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keep your mouth shut because all you're doing is adding to the problem.
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So now, everybody mad.
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Everybody mad because everybody got an opinion. opinion if
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people you know i'm from old
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school like christian guy and there
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was a group called the williams brothers back in the day and they had a
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great song and the song went sweep around your own front door before you try
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and sweep around mine he said in the chorus he said if you take six months to
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mind your own business and take six months and leave other folks business alone
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alone, you might can get something done.
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Mind your business. This isn't about you. Ain't nobody asking for your opinion.
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None of that. Keep it moving. Why? Because people feel like,
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they feel emboldened to make these opinions about you because they don't have
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nothing else better to do.
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They don't have anything else better to do. They will sit here and,
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you know, people love drama.
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What's that old saying goes? Misery loves company, right?
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Misery loves company, but But you have got to mind your business because what's
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going to happen is you bring just somebody like me who is petty.
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I'm not even on the petty level like I used to be. If I was on a petty level,
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I should have went live on Instagram right then and called her out.
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I was like, no, I'm not going to do that.
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So reading this comment, only
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Lord, no one knows what is really happening behind closed doors. Exactly.
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Nobody knows what's happening behind these closed doors. But you have the audacity
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to fix your lips to say something about me and attack me.
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If you don't sit down somewhere and leave me alone, you better,
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you know, because you don't know.
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Nobody knows the pain that I went through in that situation. Nobody knows that.
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Nobody knows that because nobody bothered to ask me.
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Nobody bothered to ask, are you okay?
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Only the people that support me came to me, hit me in the inbox and was like,
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bro, you okay? You want to talk about it? It's better to, you know what I'm saying?
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Nobody other than my support system. them. But the other side of the narrative
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was, he ain't crap. He took the money and ran.
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Ran where? You know what I'm saying? Like, where am I going?
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Even though, now, I did make some mistakes, now. I ain't going to say,
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hold on, let me clarify something.
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I did take the money, my money that I deposited, my check, put it and move it to another account.
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But in the state of Missouri, you can't do that while you're going through a divorce proceeding.
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So, I had to go back, I had to put some money back and pay some bills or whatever.
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And I had no problem with doing it, right?
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But because I didn't know the law as far as taking money and moving to another
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account, I didn't know that.
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And I didn't know that I could not do that during the work proceeding.
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But I made good and fixed everything.
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But now I guarantee you that she controlled the narrative. This is how you know
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she controlled the narrative.
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Because when I fixed it and fixed
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everything, everything. They didn't come back and say anything to me.
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All they did, all they did was attack me for what she said in the beginning,
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but she didn't tell them.
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No, no, no, no. No, y'all. He did fix it. No, no. He did do this.
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No, no. He didn't do that. But see, that's the thing. That's why I say it's impossible.
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You would be amazed at how many mofos would change their idea or theory about
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you if they knew your side of the story. because had the narrative been,
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Terry did fix it. He made a bad choice or a mistake. He fixed it.
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Had that been said, if they were legit human beings, they would have came back
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and apologized and said, okay, well, she did say this, and I know you fixed
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it, da-da-da-da, and kind of rectified it. But no, nobody did that.
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They just wanted to continue to rip me to shreds. And that's fine, I guess.
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The petty side of me, I allowed it. And I was like, okay, cool, cool.
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I was in a dark place. I didn't want to, I don't want to deal with it.
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I just deleted them. But I'm just saying to the people, listen,
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mind your business, man.
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What's the old saying goes? Mind the business that pays you.
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Mind the business that pays you. If it don't pay you, stay out of people's business,
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man. You're going to mess around.
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You're going to get caught up in some stuff and you did not want to be there. You're doing the most.
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When it comes to matters of the heart with people, stay out of that.
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If that's not your husband, If that ain't your wife, stay out of that.
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Another comment on TikTok. It's sad when a couple with children can't love their
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children enough to be respectful. Exactly.
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Well, only Lori. Only Lori listen to me. I wish you guys was on my TikTok with me.
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But we try to respect. I try to respect her.
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We have a good, when it comes to him, we try to respect each other.
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But outside of him, though, it gets petty. it gets petty and it gets uncool
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to real quick between me and her because and the thing of it is is that people are.
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Just so many folks just having an opinion about something that does not concern them.
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Stay out of my business. Stay out of her business. Mine's yours.
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People, stay out of people's business, man. It don't have anything to do with
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you. Why are you in somebody else's business?
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Because you like drama? Are you the drama? I think you're the drama.
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You know what I'm saying?
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That's kind of what they say. But why are you in some business that has nothing to do with you?
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If you find yourself, if you look and you find yourself in the middle of drama,
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that has no concern, if you are not the common denominator in a problem,
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get out of it. Stay out of it. Keep your mouth shut.
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Don't have anything to do with you. You're going to find yourself hurt and without a friend. Stop.
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Why are we doing that? But listen, This podcast, this episode today,
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you can find this on podbean.com.
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Hopefully, it'll come to Apple here pretty soon.
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But like I said, if you want to find the podcast, it is knuckleheadchroniclespodcast.podbean.com.
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You can find that on Spotify. I know we're on Spotify, but you can definitely find it on Podbean.
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Please go, take a listen, subscribe.
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That way you can get the newest episodes when they come out, right?
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But I'm going to get out of here, you guys. And next time, have a wonderful rest of your day.
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Music.
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All right, guys, welcome to another episode of the Knucklehead Chronicles podcast.
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It is your boy, Terry. We are getting into another episode. This episode today,
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it will be entitled, Mind Your Business.
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There are so many people that just will not mind their business.
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It's not even funny. So if you got this into episode one, you're going to be in tune.
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Music.
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And what's going on? Welcome to another episode of Knucklehead Chronicles Podcast.
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Like I said before, it is your boy Terry. I am back. This is episode two of this podcast.
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Now, if you listen to any of episode one on yesterday, you're going to be in good hands.
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Like I said before, if you have not, you need to go to knuckleheadchroniclespodcast.podbean.com,
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and check out the newest episode.
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The last episode was named One Day at a Time. It was about mental health and
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all that in my last episode.
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So this one, though, I'm going to get a little, I'm not going to say petty,
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but we're going to get this a little bit more in depth.
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Now, what I did today, I'm doing something a little bit different.
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I got my TikTok audience with me today.
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So I might be looking over and commenting on some stuff that we were talking
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about earlier on my TikTok live.
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So if you don't follow me on TikTok, follow me at D-A-G-U-R-U 2022 on TikTok.
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You can follow me on that.
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Okay so we're gonna get into it now i
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don't want to sound petty i don't mean to sound petty right i
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don't petty is not my forte well
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not anymore i used to be being petty to be my thing but it's not i'm not gonna
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be petty anymore but those of you guys know that i went through this divorce
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with my ex and i was in a dark place and i took a road trip on one weekend i
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went down to north North Carolina to see my grandkids.
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Those of you guys that know me have five grandchildren that I love dearly.
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And because I was in such a bad place, I went down to see them.
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In the midst of going down to see them, you know, I had some interactions with
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my ex on the phone on the way down there.
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And it got really, really tricky. It involved some money.
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And it's just a long story. We don't get to that because that'll bring the petty.
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If I get to that, it's going to bring the petty out of me. I don't want to be petty, right?
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So I don't want to be petty at all. So I get down.
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And once I get down to my daughter's house and I'm playing with my grandkids,
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you know, I get this message on Instagram from one of my ex's friends.
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You know, one of my ex's friends, actually two of them, I get,
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they get on, they hit me up on Instagram. that was all nosy and,
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you know, you shouldn't be like that.
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You should have did that. Why you do it like this and that and the third?
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Why you go running and all that good stuff?
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And I'm like, all I did was go visit my grandkids.
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But, because my ex controlled the narrative, they were under the impression that I just left.
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You know, I left the state of Missouri and was like, gone. Good. Good.
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But they proceeded to attack me on social media.
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I mean, they attacked me. They was like, I'm going to do a, one of them was on TikTok.
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And she was like, I'm going to do a video exposing you and all this other good
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stuff here. And I'm like, exposing me for what? What are you talking about? You know?
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And so I went and this attack happened to me for about two hours.
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I mean, it was, it was nonstop messages from them to where, to the point where
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I had to end up blocking them on social media.
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Because I thought I had blocked all of her friends and family anyway on social
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media, but apparently I didn't. So I had to go back and I had to block the social media.
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And so I text her, I say, hey, your friends are attacking me on social media.
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She's like, oh, I didn't tell them to do that.
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I said, you a whole lot. You a whole lot. Because the thing is that when people
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can't control the narrative, if people can control the narrative.
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They don't say anything.
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Can you imagine how many people would not be mad at you if they knew your side of the story?
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Think about it for a second. You have people who will demolish you over somebody else.
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Like, okay, you got a friend and she has a hook and she tells you,
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oh, he ain't nothing. He ain't did nothing. He's lazy. That's not whatever.
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She's controlling the narrative, right? Right.
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But if you would if you were to go and ask him what was going on,
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he will tell you, well, she does.
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She does this, that, the third, the other thing. Right.
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You will be easier. It'll be it'll be easier for you to say,
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OK, wait, let me go ahead and back this thing down a little bit. Let me see if both sides.
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But when one person controls the narrative, it gets tricky.
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Again, and I ask it to everybody who's listening, listen, imagine how many people.
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Would not be mad at you simply if they heard your side of the story.
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So because of what happened between me and my ex, I had these folks attacking
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me, not knowing the whole story, which I'm not going to give the whole story
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because it's not my story to tell. You know what I'm saying?
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But I just thought I got attacked.
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I need for you folks to mind your business.
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If you are in a situation and you got a friend, if he does not affect you directly,
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mind your business. this.
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The problem, people is in everybody else's business. They're in everybody else's business.
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It's just like one of my friends said here on TikTok, only Lori,
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she said, you know, friends have, they have this thing to where they get this.
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Friends tell you if you are having a good marriage or not. Your friends will
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tell you if you're having a good marriage or not.
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What, you can't come to your own conclusion about that? You don't know?
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You know what I'm saying? If your friends have to tell you, oh girl, he ain't nothing.
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Oh girl, he broke. Oh, girl, he this. Oh, girl, he that.
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If your friends are going to tell you that you are in a good or a bad relationship
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or situation, you're doing this wrong.
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You're doing it wrong. And sometimes we have to stop and take a breath.
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It's like, wait a minute. Maybe. You know.
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But I need for people to mind their business. You have your own struggles.
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These two people that attacked me were people that had their own struggles in life going on.
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They had their own struggles. One was homeless.
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The other one had some health issues or whatever.
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They had their own struggles. You don't have time to worry about what's going on between me and mine.
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But you're quick. You're quick. Hey, Kisa. But you're quick. That's TikTok.
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You're quick to tell somebody else your opinion about somebody else. Look.
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Mind yours. Keep it moving. If you don't have a solution to the problem,
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keep your mouth shut because all you're doing is adding to the problem.
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So now, everybody mad.
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Everybody mad because everybody got an opinion. opinion if
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people you know i'm from old
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school like christian guy and there
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was a group called the williams brothers back in the day and they had a
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great song and the song went sweep around your own front door before you try
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and sweep around mine he said in the chorus he said if you take six months to
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mind your own business and take six months and leave other folks business alone
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alone, you might can get something done.
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Mind your business. This isn't about you. Ain't nobody asking for your opinion.
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None of that. Keep it moving. Why? Because people feel like,
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they feel emboldened to make these opinions about you because they don't have
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nothing else better to do.
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They don't have anything else better to do. They will sit here and,
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you know, people love drama.
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What's that old saying goes? Misery loves company, right?
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Misery loves company, but But you have got to mind your business because what's
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going to happen is you bring just somebody like me who is petty.
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I'm not even on the petty level like I used to be. If I was on a petty level,
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I should have went live on Instagram right then and called her out.
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I was like, no, I'm not going to do that.
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So reading this comment, only
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Lord, no one knows what is really happening behind closed doors. Exactly.
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Nobody knows what's happening behind these closed doors. But you have the audacity
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to fix your lips to say something about me and attack me.
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If you don't sit down somewhere and leave me alone, you better,
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you know, because you don't know.
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Nobody knows the pain that I went through in that situation. Nobody knows that.
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Nobody knows that because nobody bothered to ask me.
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Nobody bothered to ask, are you okay?
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Only the people that support me came to me, hit me in the inbox and was like,
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bro, you okay? You want to talk about it? It's better to, you know what I'm saying?
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Nobody other than my support system. them. But the other side of the narrative
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was, he ain't crap. He took the money and ran.
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Ran where? You know what I'm saying? Like, where am I going?
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Even though, now, I did make some mistakes, now. I ain't going to say,
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hold on, let me clarify something.
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I did take the money, my money that I deposited, my check, put it and move it to another account.
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But in the state of Missouri, you can't do that while you're going through a divorce proceeding.
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So, I had to go back, I had to put some money back and pay some bills or whatever.
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And I had no problem with doing it, right?
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But because I didn't know the law as far as taking money and moving to another
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account, I didn't know that.
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And I didn't know that I could not do that during the work proceeding.
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But I made good and fixed everything.
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But now I guarantee you that she controlled the narrative. This is how you know
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she controlled the narrative.
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Because when I fixed it and fixed
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everything, everything. They didn't come back and say anything to me.
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All they did, all they did was attack me for what she said in the beginning,
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but she didn't tell them.
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No, no, no, no. No, y'all. He did fix it. No, no. He did do this.
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No, no. He didn't do that. But see, that's the thing. That's why I say it's impossible.
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You would be amazed at how many mofos would change their idea or theory about
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you if they knew your side of the story. because had the narrative been,
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Terry did fix it. He made a bad choice or a mistake. He fixed it.
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Had that been said, if they were legit human beings, they would have came back
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and apologized and said, okay, well, she did say this, and I know you fixed
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it, da-da-da-da, and kind of rectified it. But no, nobody did that.
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They just wanted to continue to rip me to shreds. And that's fine, I guess.
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The petty side of me, I allowed it. And I was like, okay, cool, cool.
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I was in a dark place. I didn't want to, I don't want to deal with it.
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I just deleted them. But I'm just saying to the people, listen,
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mind your business, man.
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What's the old saying goes? Mind the business that pays you.
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Mind the business that pays you. If it don't pay you, stay out of people's business,
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man. You're going to mess around.
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You're going to get caught up in some stuff and you did not want to be there. You're doing the most.
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When it comes to matters of the heart with people, stay out of that.
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If that's not your husband, If that ain't your wife, stay out of that.
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Another comment on TikTok. It's sad when a couple with children can't love their
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children enough to be respectful. Exactly.
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Well, only Lori. Only Lori listen to me. I wish you guys was on my TikTok with me.
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But we try to respect. I try to respect her.
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We have a good, when it comes to him, we try to respect each other.
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But outside of him, though, it gets petty. it gets petty and it gets uncool
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to real quick between me and her because and the thing of it is is that people are.
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Just so many folks just having an opinion about something that does not concern them.
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Stay out of my business. Stay out of her business. Mine's yours.
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People, stay out of people's business, man. It don't have anything to do with
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you. Why are you in somebody else's business?
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Because you like drama? Are you the drama? I think you're the drama.
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You know what I'm saying?
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That's kind of what they say. But why are you in some business that has nothing to do with you?
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If you find yourself, if you look and you find yourself in the middle of drama,
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that has no concern, if you are not the common denominator in a problem,
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get out of it. Stay out of it. Keep your mouth shut.
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Don't have anything to do with you. You're going to find yourself hurt and without a friend. Stop.
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Why are we doing that? But listen, This podcast, this episode today,
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you can find this on podbean.com.
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Hopefully, it'll come to Apple here pretty soon.
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But like I said, if you want to find the podcast, it is knuckleheadchroniclespodcast.podbean.com.
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You can find that on Spotify. I know we're on Spotify, but you can definitely find it on Podbean.
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Please go, take a listen, subscribe.
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That way you can get the newest episodes when they come out, right?
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But I'm going to get out of here, you guys. And next time, have a wonderful rest of your day.
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