Let's Spin The Block One More Time Ep3 "What The F***!

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Music.

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All right, you guys, welcome to another episode of the Knucklehead Chronicles podcast.

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I think I've already mentioned that one time before, but I'm going to do that

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again just for my audio listeners.

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I'm actually streaming this episode today on Facebook and on YouTube.

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So, like I said, hopefully I can get some engagement. If not,

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I'm also live streaming on TikTok.

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I'm not sure if anybody on TikTok is going to be on here or if they can even

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hear me, but I'm going to go ahead and do it anyway. Now, this podcast,

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just to give you guys a little bit of audio listeners, a little bit of backstory,

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just to catch you guys up.

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This podcast is to help other people not make the same mistakes that I've made

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because I've made a slew of them.

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And so, you know, I've always set out to try to help other people.

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So, you know, sometimes it's not always easy to help other people because some

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people don't want to really listen to what you have to say.

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But this is my carcinary tale. I am on episode three.

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There are a few things that I have discussed in the beginning of this podcast.

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And if we launched this podcast, if you watched the first two episodes or listened

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to the first two episodes that I discussed, when I was 16,

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finding out that the father that raised me wasn't my biological father and how

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traumatic that was for me.

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And there's still some things, even in my age now, being 50,

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things still trigger me to the day.

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But we discussed that in episode one. In episode two, we discussed my first

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marriage because I got married really, really young.

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And I don't know why, I do know why I did it.

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I got married young the first time because I wanted to be out of my mama's house

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and it was just easier for me to do, it was just easier for me to go and do

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something else, just to get out of the house. I wanted to be out of my mama's house.

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So now we're going into episode three.

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Now episode three, I'll tell you guys, I'm going to warn you guys right off

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the bat, strap up. could just strap the hell up because episode three is going

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to be a little bit difficult.

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So I will tell you guys, I will tell anyone that's listening,

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Leave them cougars alone. You understand what I'm saying to you?

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Leave them cougars alone. Let me tell you why I say that, okay?

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So if you got this in the episode two, me and my first wife,

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we kind of just parted ways because of, you know, irreconcilable differences.

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It was the biggest thing that happened between me and her, just to give a short

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story. The short version of that is just irreconcilable.

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And so we decided to part ways.

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And it was a trying time. But this is what I did. I cheated on her, right?

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Because things had gotten so bad between us. I mean, there was no communication.

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There was really nothing going on in our life.

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And I cheated on her, right? The problem was that I cheated on her with an older woman.

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Now, for the sake of this podcast, I'm not going to give her a name,

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but I can't remember what I called her the last time I did this. But let's see.

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Me and my friend from Louisiana was talking this morning about it.

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You know what? I'm going to call her Shirley because she said it.

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I'm going to call her Shirley.

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And so I met this woman. I was doing security at a place called Selectron in

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Charlotte, North Carolina, a company that's no longer about.

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And I met this woman and her name was Shirley for the sake of the podcast.

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And Shirley was just a statuesque woman. I saw her. I was instantly attracted.

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And I decided to shoot my shot, you know, at her. So I shot my shot.

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At first, she did not want to give me any type of day because I was young.

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I think at the time I was 20, 20 or 21. I can't remember exactly the age,

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but I think it was 20 or 21, nonetheless.

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So I ended up shooting my shot at this older woman. I go back to rule number

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one, leave them cougars alone. Them cougars ain't about nothing.

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And excuse me, leave them cougars alone, man. Man, it's just,

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it's bad. Anyway, so I shot my shot.

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And so, you know, I was, when I shot my shot, I was very truthful with her.

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And I told her what my age was.

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She wasn't truthful to me about what her age was.

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So I'm going through, I'm thinking, hey, man, this statuesque woman, man.

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When I tell you, she was stacked like a Russian brick house. I mean, she was stacked.

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So we started dating. And she intrigued me so much to the point where I left my first wife.

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I mean, I just, I just, because of what I went through with her and all the

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drama and the nonsense and the baby stuff, and it was just a lot.

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And so I ended up leaving her on a whim, just didn't, it was one of those didn't

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come home one day type deals.

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It wasn't like I packed up my bags and said, you know, I'm going,

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it wasn't like I packed up my bags and said, I'm going over there.

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You know what I'm saying? It was just, it was one of those, hey, you guys on TikTok.

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It was one of those, I ain't coming home. And so I didn't, I didn't come home.

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And I ended up moving in with the older lady.

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Leave them cougars alone. And them cougars ain't nothing. I'm telling you,

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they rough out here. They rough. And so I started, I moved in with her.

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Now, what I found out was very early on in the relationship was that her kids were older than me.

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Right? That should have gave me a clue. They should have gave me some kind of,

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you know, idea in my head. Her kids were older than me.

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Her youngest daughter was older than me by six months. You know,

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she had a son who was maybe 10 years older than me.

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Now, I want to give you guys the age gap, but don't laugh at me,

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okay? I'm going to give you guys the age gap.

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When I tell you she was older, this woman was 26 years my senior.

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26 years my senior. When I tell you, you know, it's just like Smokey said in Friday.

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You know what I'm saying? It's darker the berries, the sweetest.

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And he said, the older the berries, the sweeter the juice.

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And then Cube said, the black of the berries, the sweeter the juice.

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Well, she's a blacker than a motherfucker, too.

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But what I tell you, she was 26 years my senior. And maybe, maybe,

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I wouldn't read it for all that.

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But I didn't think anything about it, right? I said, you know.

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But this is when I found out that she was 26 years my senior.

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Her birthday the following year she told me she was 47 years old now just do

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the math you know 21 she's 47,

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I didn't find out that she was 53 until her birthday.

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So I'm a 21-year-old man with a 53-year-old woman. Don't laugh at me. Don't you dare judge me.

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Don't you dare judge me. It was hard. She didn't look her age.

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She's one, you know, it's her.

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It was a firm thing of when they say black don't crack. Because when I tell you, she flawless.

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She has a kiss at 53.

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And so we got into a relationship and, you know, and it was, it was rough.

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And why it was so hard for me was because I really hadn't come into the man that I needed to be.

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And it was, I didn't know how to be a man. I had no, I'm just, I'm just traveling.

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You know, I'm going through, I'm making mistakes, I'm making bad choices,

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I'm doing things. and then I get with this older woman.

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And when I tell you the most traumatic time of my life happened with that older

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woman, I can tell you many, many, many, many stories about what happened with

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this woman. I'm going to give you a couple of them, okay?

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This woman, I don't know. I think, you know, we did the adult thing,

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you know, the first time I went over to her house, first time,

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and she was hooked like a fish, right? So, she was from South Carolina.

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Now, anybody that's watching this or listening to this know that if you're from

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North or South Carolina, or South Carolina especially, they believe in witchcraft

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or hoodoo, voodoo, whatever they call it. And...

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This woman put a root on me, something fierce. You understand me?

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She put a root on me. What they say in the South, Marlo on TikTok,

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who's listening to me and watching, they call it a root.

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So down there in South Carolina, she put a root on me. Now, I'm not sure which

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one she put, because there's so many, you know, they can put on you.

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While one, they put the menstrual in the spaghetti sauce or whatever,

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which is nasty. That's nasty. I don't know who do that.

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Well, I don't know which root she put on me, but when I tell you,

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I was with this woman for five years.

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In every situation, I could not leave this woman. No matter what I did,

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I went on to another relationship.

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I was doing whatever, but I could not leave this woman. No matter what I did, it was crazy.

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But when I tell you that this woman did, she played the ultimate I want to be

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your mama type situation.

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I want to be your mama. That's why I say, that's why I'm telling y'all,

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Man, this is a cautionary tale.

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Leave them kugels alone because some of them, they want to be your mama.

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And if you want to, I mean, and it's okay if you want a mama type in your life, that's cool, right?

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But it wasn't what I needed at the time, right? And she was terrible.

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When I tell you I couldn't leave the house, I had to ask her if I could leave the house.

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And then if I go someplace, I have to call her when I got there.

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It was just bad. It was just bad. There was one instance to where we got into an argument.

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We was at her daughter's house one day. Story time. TikTok.

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We was at her daughter's house. And,

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Something happened. I can't remember the conversation to the T,

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but it was something to the effect of about being a man in a relationship.

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And she said to me, well, her daughter, or she said to her daughter, well, he ain't no man.

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He ain't nothing. He's what I tell him to be.

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And I'm sitting there going, what? Where did this come from?

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Now, at this point, we were maybe two or three years in the relationship.

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Oh, he ain't no man. He just, you know, he pretending. I tell him what to do.

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Everywhere he go, I tell him where to go. He wear the clothes I tell him.

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I mean, it was just traumatic.

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But like I said before, with the, like I said, I didn't know that she had a root on me at the time.

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But I tell you, it didn't matter. I was stuck with this woman, stuck like Chuck.

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And, you know, I can't even explain it now. At 50 years old,

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I can't even explain it now.

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But we got into a knockdown, drag out. I mean, just verbal. It wasn't like fisticuffs.

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But we got into a verbal altercation at her daughter's.

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And I'm fighting for my life, which is one thing verbally.

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But it didn't work. And when I tell you that she run me through the ring.

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Because I had the inability to fight back, I got drugged.

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And the dragon went on for another couple of years.

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The traumatic that I felt, the traumatic that I went through,

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still to this day, there are bits of it that still haunt me today.

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We went through so much tragic stuff. You know, at one point,

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and I was cheating on her with another young lady, but I would sneak out of

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the house when she went to sleep because she went to sleep like 7.30 because she's old.

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But anyway, I was still going to have to go cheat because I was just tired. I was so tired.

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You know, her boyfriend, not her boyfriend, her son actually tried to fight me.

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You know, it's just dramatic. Just dramatic stuff. And,

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I couldn't, to this day, still can't, you know.

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And so I actually went on and left her eventually.

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Eventually I left her. After five years of trauma, arguments,

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fights, we got into a physical fight one time.

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And when I tell you this woman punked me, punked me all the way down.

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You know, don't judge me out here. I'm just saying, don't judge me.

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And this woman punked me to delve. Like, we got into a fight.

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And she took, at the time, this is when, this is way before cell phones.

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And she had a house phone.

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And she took her house phone and was beating me over the head with it,

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literally, where I had lumps on the back of my head.

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So I went through a lot of verbal abuse from this woman, went through a lot

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of physical abuse from this woman.

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And it was just terrible. But she wanted me to stay.

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And I swear to God, I couldn't go. As much as I wanted to, I could not leave.

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So eventually, I got up enough guts, enough guts, unction to leave.

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And I left her for my second wife. We'll get into that down the road.

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Got with, you know, started seeing her, you know, actually moved from Charlotte,

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North Carolina to Jacksonville, North Carolina to be with the other young lady.

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And she was still stalking me. No matter where I went, she was still calling

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my phone. even though I changed them.

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Listen, I left her. I changed my phone number.

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I didn't have that number an hour. I get a phone call from her.

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Like, what are you doing?

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What are you doing? You know, like, you should be here with me. I love you.

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I bought you this. I bought you that. Why don't you come on back home?

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Because what she did was she attached. She knew that I was bougie,

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and I like certain things.

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And I'm like, even to today, I'm bougie about certain things.

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I'm an electronic guy. I love electronics. Anything you buy me something with

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electronics, I'm all over it. You know what I'm saying?

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And so she would try to bribe me to come back, right?

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And it didn't work. It didn't work. And it was just a terrible, terrible situation.

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Listen, fellas, ladies, don't do it.

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Ladies, listen, you better be in tune. This is a cautionary tale.

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This is what I want to say.

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You better be in tune with yourself when you're dealing with people because

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you never know who you're going to run into.

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Everybody isn't on an even mental playing field with you.

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Everybody isn't on the same level as you at all sometimes.

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You know, they say, you know, everybody has a bit of crazy. That's the old saying.

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Everybody has a bit of crazy.

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The level of crazy you want to deal with is up to you, right? And that's a true story.

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And this woman was crazy beyond something. But, you know, I'm young.

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I'm 21. I don't know. What am I knowing?

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So we break up. I leave. I go with the other, my soon-to-be second wife.

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She's not my second wife yet. She's just my girlfriend.

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So I move to Jacksonville. We move down there with her. and she's stalking and all that.

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Now, my second wife, well, my second relationship, well, third,

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actually, was from Chicago.

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She had some issues, so we had to end up leaving Jacksonville and move back

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to Chicago, back up to her mama's.

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So I went with her to Jacksonville, to Chicago. That's how I ended up in Chicago.

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This was in, I want to say, July of 2001. And the reason why I know that is

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because that's when that year, 9-11 happened.

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So I go to Chicago. I know nothing of Chicago, first of all.

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Nothing. I'm from the South. What do I know about the city? Nothing.

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I can't ride the bus the same way. I can't, you know, I can't smile at people.

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I can't do that. You can't do nothing in the city, especially the inner city.

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Now, and she was from Inglewood. Anybody from Chicago know, if you know where

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Inglewood is, uh-uh, if you ain't from over there, you better know somebody

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that was there. And so, and this is back in 01.

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So, I go to Chicago and I'm living with this woman and her mother, in her attic.

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And I found myself falling in love with this woman. I fell in love with her. She got a little girl.

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She just graduated from, I forgot what she graduated from. I'm sorry, I'm bad.

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But she got away from college with her master's just last weekend or weekend before.

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But I remember her when she was six months old. What's up? I was six months old. And...

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But for some reason, I could not. I told you that root, that root was serious.

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Now, to give you a little bit of insight on that root, this is,

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listen, we get to Chicago.

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We went up by Greyhound bus, right? So it took a couple days.

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Went by Greyhound bus. We get to her mama's.

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Her mama says to me, who is Shirley? And why is she calling my house?

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You know what I'm saying?

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What? So we walk in the house.

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We had just got there, pulled it. We had my brother drove the U-Haul.

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So we pulled the U-Haul in the backyard, and we're getting ready to unload it.

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We walk in the house, and her mother says to me, to me, she says,

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who is Shirley, and why is she calling my house?

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Okay, we're not going to start that.

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We're not going to start that. And it was just the strangest thing,

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and she would call, call every other hour, call.

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And so I finally got on the phone with her. I told her, look, we're done.

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But I bought you this pit bull puppy. I did this. I did that. Why don't you come back?

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I said, you're crazy. Don't call you no more. And she didn't. She stopped calling.

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So I didn't talk to her for another. I think I stayed with, and I'll mention my second wife.

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We'll get down the road and talk about her later. But, so I didn't talk to her

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for another three or four months.

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Maybe, yeah, three or four months. I'm getting acclimated to the city because

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I know nothing of the South Side. I know nothing of Chicago.

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So I'm working security out of a place in downtown Chicago.

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I mean, I might be five blocks from the Sears Tower. Well, now it's the Woods Tower.

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So this one Saturday, and this is the last story I'm going to tell before I get out of here.

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I'm sitting there one Saturday and for whatever reason or another I decided,

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to call Shirley just out of the blue just no rhyme or reason so I called Shirley

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out of the blue and she said I know you're going to call me that's how I know

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some witchcraft going on because I didn't worry you know I'm going to call you,

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so I talked to her and I was like no I didn't call you for all that I just called

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you because of whatever, you know?

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I got this one of the 84's, whatever. Whatever excuse I gave,

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I can't remember what it was.

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So I ended up calling her maybe three or four more times that day.

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I couldn't explain it, I couldn't explain it, three or four more times that day.

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I called my girlfriend at the time. I called her, checking on her,

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checking on the kids, you know.

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And, but I never called her. I never talked to her again, right?

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So I called Shirley back the last time.

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And she says, listen, I got a plane ticket for you. God, I know you want to

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come home. I know you want to come home.

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I got a plane ticket at O'Hare waiting on you. All you got to do is to get on

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the train, go to the airport, grab your ticket, get on the plane and come home.

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Now, the whole time, I ain't wanting to go. Like, I don't want to go. I don't.

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But whatever she did, whatever rut she put on me, baby, I couldn't fight it.

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I left that job stranded. Now, anybody who's ever done security,

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you can't abandon your post. I abandoned that post with the quickness, you understand?

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Because the blue line that runs to the airport was right next door, right?

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I abandoned that post. I got on that blue line train. I went to the airport with just my uniform.

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I didn't have nothing else with my uniform. And I got on the plane.

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And when I tell you, once I got on that plane and flew back to Charlotte from

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Chicago, Girl, mid-flight, I knew that was the worst mistake I ever made.

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I get back. I land. She's there waiting for me. We instantly get into a fight.

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At baggage claim, we get into a fight because I knew that I made a mistake.

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So I said, all that, just say this before I get out of here.

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Listen, man, like I said before, be mindful.

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You know, I know that it's, sometimes it's hard because we don't know who we are yet.

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So it's important that we get to know who we are before we start dealing with other people.

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Because everybody don't feel the same. Everybody don't have the same intentions.

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Everybody don't have the same intentions.

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Everybody doesn't feel the same way. Like, you know, because in relationships,

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we want to be loved and valued.

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We want to be appreciated. We don't want to be taken advantage of.

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We don't want to be lied to. We don't want to be manipulated.

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But in this relationship that I had with Shirley, and it gets worse.

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This is going to be a two-party. It gets worse because it gets worse.

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I promise you, you got to stay tuned for that. It gets worse.

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So you have to follow the podcast to get the second part of the story.

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But in every way was when she manipulated me, abused me, and all because I didn't

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step into my manhood like I was supposed to.

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There's a certain time in your life, you got to step into it.

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Sometimes you just got to step out of it.

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I mean, step into your manhood, step into where you need to be.

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Because if you don't, you're going to get taken advantage of.

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You're going to get abused. and now you have now i'm walking around 50 still

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triggered by some things he did 20 years ago,

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because we wasn't ready right but on the lighter side of it fellas man leave

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listen man leave them damn cougars alone if you ain't listen if you're not ready

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leave them women alone leave them alone,

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Because they will completely destroy you emotionally. I mean,

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maybe not physically, emotionally.

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Will completely destroy you if you aren't in a place where you need to be.

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That's the important thing here.

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Fellas, women, ladies, stop abusing the other half.

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If you got somebody good in your life, love them.

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If you got somebody good in life, love them.

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Treat them with respect. It goes both ways, right? This is not a one-sided street.

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Some people think it is. In this society, some people think it is,

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but it's not. It's a two-way street.

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You love and appreciate who you're with because what you don't want to do is

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create trauma for somebody else because of your mistakes. I'm just saying.

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So with that being said, listen, and I'm going to get on out of here.

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Thank you, Marlo on TikTok for taking your time and sitting and listening to me today.

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But until then, man, love each other. That's all we got.

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That's all we got. Until next time.

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Music.