July 1, 2025
From Past Flames to New Fires: A Journey Through Relationship Chaos
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Welcome to another episode of Knucklehead Chronicles, where Terry shares a rollercoaster of personal stories and lessons from his life. In this gripping episode, Terry dives into the wild, unpredictable journey of love, highlighting his return to North Carolina and a tumultuous encounter with a long-lost childhood crush. With humor and raw honesty, he exposes the chaos of a relationship gone awry and reflects on recognizing red flags, understanding personal limits, and the importance of healing emotional scars. Join us as Terry reveals the cautionary tales of his past and the essential life lessons learned along the way.
00:39 - Welcome to the Knucklehead Chronicles
02:17 - New Beginnings: The Move to North Carolina
04:03 - Reconnecting with the Past
05:25 - The Unexpected Shift
06:35 - Job Troubles and Relationship Strain
12:43 - The Breaking Point
13:53 - Life After the Breakup
15:47 - Lessons Learned from Chaos
21:04 - Closing Thoughts and Future Plans
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And what's going on, you guys? Welcome. I can't even talk.
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Welcome to another episode of the Knucklehead Chronicles podcast. It is your boy, Terry.
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Man, we're going to get into episode eight here in just a second,
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but I want to catch up to folks that are brand new that have not listened to
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episode one through seven. You might want to go through those before you jump
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into episode eight because you'll be confused if you don't, right?
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So episode seven, we was talking about, you know, I think I ended up,
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I ended the last episode, I left Illinois back in, this is in 2014, so circa 2014.
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I went through a lot of stuff back in 2014, man, I left a woman who I thought
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I was going to spend the rest of my life with, and she had moved on, and I was left behind.
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And so I went into my next chapter, which is the, I think, you know,
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this chapter, this chapter I'm going to talk about tonight is kind of one of
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the craziest chapters of my life that I went through.
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And I went through a lot, you know, but the premise of this podcast episode
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tonight is to make sure that you guys are able to recognize crazy through the door.
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Now, one thing I will say about people who are crazy is that everybody that's
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walking the planet, male, female, girl, boy, it doesn't really matter.
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Everybody walks, I believe, walks with a level of crazy, right? Everybody does.
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So there's no shortage of crazy in the world, right?
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But it is the ability to recognize what level of crazy you're willing to take and put up with, right?
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So we're going to go right into episode eight. Now, episode eight,
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I told you guys at the end of episode seven that I got on the plane and I'm
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going back to North Carolina.
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Now, what happened before all of that happened was I found a old childhood crush
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that I had when I was very, very young, 10 or 11, maybe.
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And I met this woman. I'm not going to name her name, but she probably doesn't care if I did or not.
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Because she was out there, right? So, you know, I was a kid.
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Let me give you a little bit of the backdrop.
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I was a kid, and my dad used to preach at this church every fourth Sunday of every month.
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He would go to the same church, and it was back in my hometown.
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And every Sunday, this young lady and her grandmother and all them,
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they would come to the church.
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And so I developed this crush on her. It was just this amazing crush, but we lost contact.
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And so over the years that I went, I was looking for her and things of this nature.
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And when I was going through the things with strawberry right there at the end,
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you know, I found her on Facebook and we became friends on Facebook and everything was good.
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You know, everything was good. We was talking, we were FaceTime, you know, and all that.
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But she was just on another level.
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So we got to the point where we made a decision to get together and make a run
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for it. because I had my run with strawberry and that was over and done.
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And so I went with this, you know, what do I have to lose, right?
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Because what I was seeing was failing and I didn't know what God had in store going forward.
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So I leave, you know, I leave Illinois. I leave the whole thing. And I get on this plane.
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She meets me at the airport. Now, let me tell you something about this woman.
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When I get off the plane, And I come through baggage claim to get my suitcase.
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She came, I mean, she came with the guns blazing. You understand?
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I mean, she came with the sundress, no undergarments, top or bottom.
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You know, she came with the thunder, right? So that was really intriguing to
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me because at that point in my life, it's all about the physical.
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So we go back to her place and I moved in with her. I go back to her place.
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And there was no sign of, you know, it's just like, it's just like,
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it's like Martin. If you guys have ever watched You So Crazy.
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And he had that part of You So Crazy when he was saying, there was no sign of
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her being crazy, deranged.
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And that is what this was. There was no sign of her being crazy and deranged.
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So we get back to the apartment. You know, we do what adults do.
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And after that, it just fell apart. Right. So I go back, you know,
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I'm back home. you know and,
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I don't know what happened with her. I don't know what switch was flipped.
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I don't know. But she became this really controlling woman.
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And, you know, like, she would make me do things.
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Because, you know, naturally, I'm a homebody. Anybody that knows me,
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no. Anybody that knows me, no.
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I'm a homebody. I go out every now and then.
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But I'm not that, you know, that go-out type person.
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And so she used to make me go out and do things, go to church.
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I just, you know, I wasn't really
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into that, you know, as I was still mourning the loss of Strawberry.
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So I really couldn't even get into it.
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So she tried. I mean, and so for the most part, I complied, you know,
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because I just didn't want to hear a whole bunch of nonsense.
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So, of course, I had to go back and look for a job. I went back to a job that
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I had worked years prior.
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You know, you get those jobs that, you know, there's no, their turnover is crazy,
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and you can go back and get a job anytime you want. It was like that.
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And so I went back, and I got this job at this place I used to work.
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So I can't take a name of that place now, but now that's it.
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I think that's what it was. It was a phone company where it was a third party for OnStar.
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And OnStar was early in their infancy. You know, you need to call up and get
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directions and all that jazz.
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But I went back. Now, a lot of the stuff that I had when I was there previously
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was a child support order and things of this nature that I was going through.
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So when I went back, they had my social security number.
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So of course, That went, that hit automatic, right?
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That first check, I was like $400 short. And I'm like, what's going on here?
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And it was like, you know, because of a previous child support order.
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So I was like, oh my God, this is gonna, you know. So I go back to work and
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I bring home that first paycheck and it's $400 short.
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And we had to pay, we had to pay liability or whatever.
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But we ended up going to Carowinds or something that day or that weekend,
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whatever, before I got paid.
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So that left was short so she flipped her lid like you know what's going on
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with you and you know I was just like man I'm sorry I didn't know they were
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going to do that you know whatever.
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But since that moment she flipped the script all the way like you know if you
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can't be a man and all that but what I realized too was that But she was really
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judgmental, right? She was really judgmental.
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Man, like I told you guys, we went to Carowinds.
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At this time, I was a little bit bigger, right?
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And so we tried to get on one of the rides, and they could not get the safety
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clasp or the safety harness on me because I was, you know, a little bit larger. So she picked at me.
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We talk about we talk about childhood bully type stuff and so after the carwin
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incident after the first paycheck incident it went to,
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I'm going to bully you now, you know, and she, and she became this bully.
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And we used to, you know, of course, but with us living together and being in
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a relationship, we sleep in the same bed.
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But of course, I, you know, I snore. I'm a dude. I'm a dude.
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Most dudes snore, you know.
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And so I snored. And because I snored, she threw me out of the bedroom,
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you know, because I snored.
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On top of the bullying, on top of the beating up of the manhood and all that
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jazz, she threw me out of the bedroom.
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So, okay, I was sleeping in another bedroom. So I started doing what I was supposed
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to do, what I thought I was supposed to do.
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And I went to plan B. I started talking to other females and things of this
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nature because, hey, you bully me. You berate my manhood.
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You threw me out of the bedroom because of me snoring. Are you serious?
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Is that the only reason why you're going to throw me out of the bedroom?
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But anyway, I started talking to this one female. Now, this chick was in like
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Mississippi, you know, never met, never talked on the phone, none of that.
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But she caught wind that I was talking to a little female, and she messaged this lady.
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And this lady, when I tell you, she lied through her teeth. She took her.
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I'm like, come on, what level of crazy are you on, like for real?
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And so the lady told her, yeah, I've been dying there. We don't slept together.
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We don't did this. We don't did that.
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And I'm like, you presented it to me like I'm cheating on you physically with
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this lady. Now, where have I been?
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Where have I gone? I've been in this house every day.
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I go to work. I come home. You pick me up from work. Oh, yeah.
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You actually, well, she used to pick me up from work.
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She stopped doing that. And so I was on my own.
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And so I tell you, this lady went to the level of crazy.
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So we she didn't have a cell phone she didn't have a cell phone now mind you
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keep your mind this lady was bullying this lady had purated my manhood I mean it's just nasty stuff,
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and of course we stopped having sex and stuff like that and you know all that
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comes with the territory when you start to bully somebody because you're not
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going to bully somebody and then screw them you're not going to do that.
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So but still though me being the simple that I was at the time she needed a
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cell phone and I wanted a cell phone and so we went to AT&T.
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And we got I got I think we went to AT&T while we was in good graces this is
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before everything went nuts and I got her a cell phone got me a cell phone we
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were I mean we were rocking you know what I'm saying and so when we went to Carol Wins,
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I lost my cell phone on a ride. It was in my pocket, and the one of those rides
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went upside down, and I don't know what ride I was riding on,
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but my cell phone didn't make it.
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And so back to AT&T, got another cell phone.
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She got her cell phone. And so the worst thing is, God, she actually introduced
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another man into our relationship.
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Like, because of the first check incident and me being short on my first check,
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she was like, well, oh, well, if you can't pay the bills, I'll get somebody
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else to do it. And so she had another dude pay whatever bill that we had to
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pay. I think it was a light bill.
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And, you know, she had this other dude pay for the bill. You know, I was like, well, dang.
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You know, if you're going to introduce another party into the relationship, you could have told me.
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You know what I'm saying? You didn't have to go behind my back and you didn't
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have to do that. I get it. I mean, I came up short. I get it.
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But you got to do that. Anyways, when I tell you she was a little in tune, that's crazy.
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Like, I'm like, I know I've done a lot of stuff, but I don't think I deserved
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what I got, you know, from her.
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And I'm thinking to myself, you mean you tell me I left Illinois for this?
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I could have stayed in Illinois. You know what I'm saying?
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So, excuse me. So, we got to the point where we broke up.
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And it was a nasty breakup. And we're not talking about, you know,
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get out and everything. It was just hunky-dory. It wasn't like that.
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When I tell you we broke up, it was nasty.
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It was get your stuff, get out. As a matter of fact, let me help you.
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And she threw all of my stuff out, you know, on the patio.
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And she was like, get your stuff, go. You got to go.
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And I'm like, okay, all right. Just keep in mind, cell phones,
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the cell phone you're talking ish to me on, about me too, the cell phone that
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you're using is in my name.
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So I was like, okay, you're going to put me out? That's how you feel? All right, cool.
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So me thinking I'm the king of petty, I go to AT&T.
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I go to AT&T and disconnect our phone automatically.
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Like, well, you're not going to keep a phone in my name.
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You don't put me out. Are you serious right now? No, you can't go ahead and get it up.
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And so I went to AT&T and I covered my phone.
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I ended up moving into a hotel.
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They had those weekly rates that you can live in. I think it was called In-Town Suites at the time.
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I'm not sure if it's there anymore, but I moved into a place called In-Town
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Suites and it had a little living room.
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The bedrooms all combined. You got your one bed, you know, kitchen.
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And But I'm not sure how she found out where I lived, but she knew exactly what room I lived in.
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So this one particular day, I'm sitting there. I'm laying in my bed,
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just chilling, maxing on a Saturday. I'm out of my business.
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And I get a knock. I get a banging. Not even a knock. It was a banging at the door.
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And I answer the door. It's her. And she was like, what the?
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You cut off my phone. Da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.
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And the next thing I know, her phone is back on. I'm like, I'm not sure how that happened.
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Like, how'd you do that? Like, is that magic? You some kind of,
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you part of the Harry Potter guild or something? How'd you do that?
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And what I found out was I didn't have a password.
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I ended up having to call AT&T and having to password on the phone or on the
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account where she couldn't react and debate the phone.
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And so she came that day ready to fight.
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Like, we're talking about fist fight. We're talking about, you know,
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fist to cuffs, you know, shoot them up movies. That's kind of what it was.
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And she was ready to fight. I'm going to fight you. You don't put me out.
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You know what I'm saying?
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So I went through that. And I'm staying.
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I'm living in this hotel, taking public transportation and just trying to pick
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up light. And I just could not.
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I could not. No matter what I thought, no matter what I tried,
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it just didn't work. Like, yeah.
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How did I get so down in the dumps to where I leave one failed relationship,
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excuse me, I leave one failed relationship right into another crazy one that
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was worse than when I left?
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It was sweet at first, man. I'm telling you, it was sweet.
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But I found out very quickly that people are not who they say they are.
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And that's a lesson that I had to learn.
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So, of course, you know, there's always a cautionary tale. in every episode that I do.
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And in this episode, the questionnaire tell us this, you know,
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one, make sure that you're ready to handle the level of crazy, right?
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Number two, kiss the red flags. When people start chasing the game,
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they start chasing the rules in the middle of the game, recognize that.
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You know, don't keep doing the same thing. Sometimes you have to adjust.
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People, you know, will throw curveballs at you. It's just like playing,
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It's like baseball players.
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They go out here, they're swinging that fastball, curveball,
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sliders, you know, change them.
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Things happen. People change, and it changes every minute.
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And you have to be ready to adjust your swing, as it were, because people just,
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and I was not ready. I was not physically ready.
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I was not emotionally ready to get into anything with this woman,
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but did it because I wanted to be away from what I was coming out of.
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So it's a lesson that we all have to learn. Like, can we, you know.
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We have to adjust to people.
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Another cautionary tale is, you know, it goes back to number two.
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I mean, you have to,
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So recognize when you are ready, if you are not ready, and that's the biggest
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thing, you know, people are jumping from, people jump from one to the other
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thinking that it's going to be okay.
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And we think we're going to take our drama, our drama and our trauma into,
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you know, from one to the other. it's not going to work.
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It's going to always, because those things, trauma, trauma with a T and drama
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with a D will make you reevaluate your life.
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And if you're not ready for it, leave it alone.
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You know, in today's society, people talk about, you know, if you're broke,
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don't date, don't do, if you're, and that's kind of a true thing.
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If you are emotionally broke, don't, because it causes more harm than good.
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Trust me when I tell you, if you think that you finna walk around here emotionally
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broke and try to date somebody who's not emotionally broke, you're gonna be messed up, right?
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So make sure that you do not, do not mess with people.
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Make sure you get your stuff in order. Just like my friend Courtney always says
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to me, she texted me the other day and she was like, get your shit together.
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You know what I'm saying? That's what I'm trying to do.
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So we gotta make sure that we have our stuff together because emotional trauma hurts.
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It hurts and it goes way beyond the physical. You know, some scars, some scars run deep.
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There are scars that I'm still dealing with to this day, June 30, 2025.
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I still deal with stuff that I try to take from one relationship to the other,
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to the other, to the other.
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And the scars just keep getting deeper and deeper. And sometimes you just got
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to let those scars, you got to stop. and you have to heal those scars from the inside out.
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You know, it doesn't always come, it doesn't come easy.
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Sometimes you got to put in work. Sometimes you got to look at the mirror.
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Sometimes you got to be like, okay, I caused this. Sometimes we have to take
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accountability for the actions.
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We got to take accountability for what we do.
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And sometimes that's the hardest part because we don't want to.
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We don't want to take accountability because taking accountability isn't the
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easiest thing to do, right?
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One thing that I learned with this lady and I'm like I said I'm not gonna give her a name but this lady,
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You know, I think I heard somewhere or read somewhere that she is now married.
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And I'm like, bless you, brother, because I'm not sure.
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You know, I'm not sure what level you're on, but God bless you.
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That I was not ready. I don't blame her for nothing. You know, I should, you know.
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But a lot of the hurt that I endured in that was, again, self-inflicted because
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I took the drama with the D from strawberry on to the next one and didn't heal from it.
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And whenever I went through, with the next lady, I went through brutality.
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You know, what I went through with strawberry was emotional.
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I went through with the other lady, it was physical.
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And it just compacted and it made the scars deeper. You know,
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sometimes you got to, you know, but at the end of the day,
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we have to stop and we have to heal those emotional scars from the inside out
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like I said man looking you gotta look inward you know what did I do to cause
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this did I do anything to cause this you know and we have to face that,
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and we just not we just don't want to we just don't want to.
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So that's gonna end episode 8 I wanna thank everybody who's listening listen
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Music.
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Music.
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And what's going on, you guys? Welcome. I can't even talk.
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Welcome to another episode of the Knucklehead Chronicles podcast. It is your boy, Terry.
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Man, we're going to get into episode eight here in just a second,
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but I want to catch up to folks that are brand new that have not listened to
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episode one through seven. You might want to go through those before you jump
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into episode eight because you'll be confused if you don't, right?
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So episode seven, we was talking about, you know, I think I ended up,
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I ended the last episode, I left Illinois back in, this is in 2014, so circa 2014.
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I went through a lot of stuff back in 2014, man, I left a woman who I thought
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I was going to spend the rest of my life with, and she had moved on, and I was left behind.
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And so I went into my next chapter, which is the, I think, you know,
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this chapter, this chapter I'm going to talk about tonight is kind of one of
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the craziest chapters of my life that I went through.
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And I went through a lot, you know, but the premise of this podcast episode
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tonight is to make sure that you guys are able to recognize crazy through the door.
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Now, one thing I will say about people who are crazy is that everybody that's
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walking the planet, male, female, girl, boy, it doesn't really matter.
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Everybody walks, I believe, walks with a level of crazy, right? Everybody does.
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So there's no shortage of crazy in the world, right?
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But it is the ability to recognize what level of crazy you're willing to take and put up with, right?
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So we're going to go right into episode eight. Now, episode eight,
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I told you guys at the end of episode seven that I got on the plane and I'm
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going back to North Carolina.
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Now, what happened before all of that happened was I found a old childhood crush
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that I had when I was very, very young, 10 or 11, maybe.
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And I met this woman. I'm not going to name her name, but she probably doesn't care if I did or not.
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Because she was out there, right? So, you know, I was a kid.
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Let me give you a little bit of the backdrop.
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I was a kid, and my dad used to preach at this church every fourth Sunday of every month.
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He would go to the same church, and it was back in my hometown.
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And every Sunday, this young lady and her grandmother and all them,
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they would come to the church.
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And so I developed this crush on her. It was just this amazing crush, but we lost contact.
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And so over the years that I went, I was looking for her and things of this nature.
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And when I was going through the things with strawberry right there at the end,
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you know, I found her on Facebook and we became friends on Facebook and everything was good.
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You know, everything was good. We was talking, we were FaceTime, you know, and all that.
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But she was just on another level.
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So we got to the point where we made a decision to get together and make a run
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for it. because I had my run with strawberry and that was over and done.
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And so I went with this, you know, what do I have to lose, right?
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Because what I was seeing was failing and I didn't know what God had in store going forward.
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So I leave, you know, I leave Illinois. I leave the whole thing. And I get on this plane.
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She meets me at the airport. Now, let me tell you something about this woman.
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When I get off the plane, And I come through baggage claim to get my suitcase.
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She came, I mean, she came with the guns blazing. You understand?
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I mean, she came with the sundress, no undergarments, top or bottom.
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You know, she came with the thunder, right? So that was really intriguing to
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me because at that point in my life, it's all about the physical.
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So we go back to her place and I moved in with her. I go back to her place.
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And there was no sign of, you know, it's just like, it's just like,
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it's like Martin. If you guys have ever watched You So Crazy.
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And he had that part of You So Crazy when he was saying, there was no sign of
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her being crazy, deranged.
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And that is what this was. There was no sign of her being crazy and deranged.
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So we get back to the apartment. You know, we do what adults do.
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And after that, it just fell apart. Right. So I go back, you know,
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I'm back home. you know and,
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I don't know what happened with her. I don't know what switch was flipped.
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I don't know. But she became this really controlling woman.
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And, you know, like, she would make me do things.
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Because, you know, naturally, I'm a homebody. Anybody that knows me,
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no. Anybody that knows me, no.
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I'm a homebody. I go out every now and then.
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But I'm not that, you know, that go-out type person.
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And so she used to make me go out and do things, go to church.
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I just, you know, I wasn't really
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into that, you know, as I was still mourning the loss of Strawberry.
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So I really couldn't even get into it.
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So she tried. I mean, and so for the most part, I complied, you know,
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because I just didn't want to hear a whole bunch of nonsense.
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So, of course, I had to go back and look for a job. I went back to a job that
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I had worked years prior.
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You know, you get those jobs that, you know, there's no, their turnover is crazy,
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and you can go back and get a job anytime you want. It was like that.
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And so I went back, and I got this job at this place I used to work.
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So I can't take a name of that place now, but now that's it.
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I think that's what it was. It was a phone company where it was a third party for OnStar.
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And OnStar was early in their infancy. You know, you need to call up and get
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directions and all that jazz.
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But I went back. Now, a lot of the stuff that I had when I was there previously
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was a child support order and things of this nature that I was going through.
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So when I went back, they had my social security number.
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So of course, That went, that hit automatic, right?
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That first check, I was like $400 short. And I'm like, what's going on here?
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And it was like, you know, because of a previous child support order.
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So I was like, oh my God, this is gonna, you know. So I go back to work and
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I bring home that first paycheck and it's $400 short.
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And we had to pay, we had to pay liability or whatever.
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But we ended up going to Carowinds or something that day or that weekend,
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whatever, before I got paid.
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So that left was short so she flipped her lid like you know what's going on
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with you and you know I was just like man I'm sorry I didn't know they were
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going to do that you know whatever.
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But since that moment she flipped the script all the way like you know if you
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can't be a man and all that but what I realized too was that But she was really
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judgmental, right? She was really judgmental.
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Man, like I told you guys, we went to Carowinds.
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At this time, I was a little bit bigger, right?
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And so we tried to get on one of the rides, and they could not get the safety
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clasp or the safety harness on me because I was, you know, a little bit larger. So she picked at me.
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We talk about we talk about childhood bully type stuff and so after the carwin
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incident after the first paycheck incident it went to,
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I'm going to bully you now, you know, and she, and she became this bully.
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And we used to, you know, of course, but with us living together and being in
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a relationship, we sleep in the same bed.
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But of course, I, you know, I snore. I'm a dude. I'm a dude.
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Most dudes snore, you know.
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And so I snored. And because I snored, she threw me out of the bedroom,
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you know, because I snored.
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On top of the bullying, on top of the beating up of the manhood and all that
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jazz, she threw me out of the bedroom.
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So, okay, I was sleeping in another bedroom. So I started doing what I was supposed
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to do, what I thought I was supposed to do.
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And I went to plan B. I started talking to other females and things of this
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nature because, hey, you bully me. You berate my manhood.
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You threw me out of the bedroom because of me snoring. Are you serious?
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Is that the only reason why you're going to throw me out of the bedroom?
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But anyway, I started talking to this one female. Now, this chick was in like
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Mississippi, you know, never met, never talked on the phone, none of that.
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But she caught wind that I was talking to a little female, and she messaged this lady.
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And this lady, when I tell you, she lied through her teeth. She took her.
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I'm like, come on, what level of crazy are you on, like for real?
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And so the lady told her, yeah, I've been dying there. We don't slept together.
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We don't did this. We don't did that.
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And I'm like, you presented it to me like I'm cheating on you physically with
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this lady. Now, where have I been?
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Where have I gone? I've been in this house every day.
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I go to work. I come home. You pick me up from work. Oh, yeah.
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You actually, well, she used to pick me up from work.
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She stopped doing that. And so I was on my own.
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And so I tell you, this lady went to the level of crazy.
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So we she didn't have a cell phone she didn't have a cell phone now mind you
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keep your mind this lady was bullying this lady had purated my manhood I mean it's just nasty stuff,
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and of course we stopped having sex and stuff like that and you know all that
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comes with the territory when you start to bully somebody because you're not
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going to bully somebody and then screw them you're not going to do that.
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So but still though me being the simple that I was at the time she needed a
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cell phone and I wanted a cell phone and so we went to AT&T.
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And we got I got I think we went to AT&T while we was in good graces this is
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before everything went nuts and I got her a cell phone got me a cell phone we
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were I mean we were rocking you know what I'm saying and so when we went to Carol Wins,
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I lost my cell phone on a ride. It was in my pocket, and the one of those rides
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went upside down, and I don't know what ride I was riding on,
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but my cell phone didn't make it.
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And so back to AT&T, got another cell phone.
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She got her cell phone. And so the worst thing is, God, she actually introduced
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another man into our relationship.
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Like, because of the first check incident and me being short on my first check,
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she was like, well, oh, well, if you can't pay the bills, I'll get somebody
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else to do it. And so she had another dude pay whatever bill that we had to
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pay. I think it was a light bill.
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And, you know, she had this other dude pay for the bill. You know, I was like, well, dang.
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You know, if you're going to introduce another party into the relationship, you could have told me.
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You know what I'm saying? You didn't have to go behind my back and you didn't
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have to do that. I get it. I mean, I came up short. I get it.
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But you got to do that. Anyways, when I tell you she was a little in tune, that's crazy.
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Like, I'm like, I know I've done a lot of stuff, but I don't think I deserved
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what I got, you know, from her.
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And I'm thinking to myself, you mean you tell me I left Illinois for this?
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I could have stayed in Illinois. You know what I'm saying?
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So, excuse me. So, we got to the point where we broke up.
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And it was a nasty breakup. And we're not talking about, you know,
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get out and everything. It was just hunky-dory. It wasn't like that.
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When I tell you we broke up, it was nasty.
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It was get your stuff, get out. As a matter of fact, let me help you.
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And she threw all of my stuff out, you know, on the patio.
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And she was like, get your stuff, go. You got to go.
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And I'm like, okay, all right. Just keep in mind, cell phones,
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the cell phone you're talking ish to me on, about me too, the cell phone that
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you're using is in my name.
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So I was like, okay, you're going to put me out? That's how you feel? All right, cool.
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So me thinking I'm the king of petty, I go to AT&T.
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I go to AT&T and disconnect our phone automatically.
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Like, well, you're not going to keep a phone in my name.
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You don't put me out. Are you serious right now? No, you can't go ahead and get it up.
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And so I went to AT&T and I covered my phone.
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I ended up moving into a hotel.
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They had those weekly rates that you can live in. I think it was called In-Town Suites at the time.
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I'm not sure if it's there anymore, but I moved into a place called In-Town
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Suites and it had a little living room.
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The bedrooms all combined. You got your one bed, you know, kitchen.
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And But I'm not sure how she found out where I lived, but she knew exactly what room I lived in.
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So this one particular day, I'm sitting there. I'm laying in my bed,
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just chilling, maxing on a Saturday. I'm out of my business.
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And I get a knock. I get a banging. Not even a knock. It was a banging at the door.
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And I answer the door. It's her. And she was like, what the?
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You cut off my phone. Da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.
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And the next thing I know, her phone is back on. I'm like, I'm not sure how that happened.
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Like, how'd you do that? Like, is that magic? You some kind of,
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you part of the Harry Potter guild or something? How'd you do that?
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And what I found out was I didn't have a password.
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I ended up having to call AT&T and having to password on the phone or on the
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account where she couldn't react and debate the phone.
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And so she came that day ready to fight.
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Like, we're talking about fist fight. We're talking about, you know,
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fist to cuffs, you know, shoot them up movies. That's kind of what it was.
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And she was ready to fight. I'm going to fight you. You don't put me out.
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You know what I'm saying?
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So I went through that. And I'm staying.
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I'm living in this hotel, taking public transportation and just trying to pick
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up light. And I just could not.
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I could not. No matter what I thought, no matter what I tried,
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it just didn't work. Like, yeah.
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How did I get so down in the dumps to where I leave one failed relationship,
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excuse me, I leave one failed relationship right into another crazy one that
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was worse than when I left?
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It was sweet at first, man. I'm telling you, it was sweet.
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But I found out very quickly that people are not who they say they are.
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And that's a lesson that I had to learn.
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So, of course, you know, there's always a cautionary tale. in every episode that I do.
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And in this episode, the questionnaire tell us this, you know,
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one, make sure that you're ready to handle the level of crazy, right?
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Number two, kiss the red flags. When people start chasing the game,
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they start chasing the rules in the middle of the game, recognize that.
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You know, don't keep doing the same thing. Sometimes you have to adjust.
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People, you know, will throw curveballs at you. It's just like playing,
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It's like baseball players.
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They go out here, they're swinging that fastball, curveball,
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sliders, you know, change them.
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Things happen. People change, and it changes every minute.
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And you have to be ready to adjust your swing, as it were, because people just,
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and I was not ready. I was not physically ready.
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I was not emotionally ready to get into anything with this woman,
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but did it because I wanted to be away from what I was coming out of.
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So it's a lesson that we all have to learn. Like, can we, you know.
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We have to adjust to people.
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Another cautionary tale is, you know, it goes back to number two.
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I mean, you have to,
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So recognize when you are ready, if you are not ready, and that's the biggest
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thing, you know, people are jumping from, people jump from one to the other
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thinking that it's going to be okay.
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And we think we're going to take our drama, our drama and our trauma into,
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you know, from one to the other. it's not going to work.
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It's going to always, because those things, trauma, trauma with a T and drama
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with a D will make you reevaluate your life.
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And if you're not ready for it, leave it alone.
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You know, in today's society, people talk about, you know, if you're broke,
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don't date, don't do, if you're, and that's kind of a true thing.
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If you are emotionally broke, don't, because it causes more harm than good.
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Trust me when I tell you, if you think that you finna walk around here emotionally
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broke and try to date somebody who's not emotionally broke, you're gonna be messed up, right?
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So make sure that you do not, do not mess with people.
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Make sure you get your stuff in order. Just like my friend Courtney always says
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to me, she texted me the other day and she was like, get your shit together.
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You know what I'm saying? That's what I'm trying to do.
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So we gotta make sure that we have our stuff together because emotional trauma hurts.
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It hurts and it goes way beyond the physical. You know, some scars, some scars run deep.
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There are scars that I'm still dealing with to this day, June 30, 2025.
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I still deal with stuff that I try to take from one relationship to the other,
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to the other, to the other.
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And the scars just keep getting deeper and deeper. And sometimes you just got
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to let those scars, you got to stop. and you have to heal those scars from the inside out.
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You know, it doesn't always come, it doesn't come easy.
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Sometimes you got to put in work. Sometimes you got to look at the mirror.
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Sometimes you got to be like, okay, I caused this. Sometimes we have to take
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accountability for the actions.
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We got to take accountability for what we do.
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And sometimes that's the hardest part because we don't want to.
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We don't want to take accountability because taking accountability isn't the
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easiest thing to do, right?
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One thing that I learned with this lady and I'm like I said I'm not gonna give her a name but this lady,
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You know, I think I heard somewhere or read somewhere that she is now married.
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And I'm like, bless you, brother, because I'm not sure.
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You know, I'm not sure what level you're on, but God bless you.
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That I was not ready. I don't blame her for nothing. You know, I should, you know.
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But a lot of the hurt that I endured in that was, again, self-inflicted because
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I took the drama with the D from strawberry on to the next one and didn't heal from it.
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And whenever I went through, with the next lady, I went through brutality.
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You know, what I went through with strawberry was emotional.
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I went through with the other lady, it was physical.
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And it just compacted and it made the scars deeper. You know,
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sometimes you got to, you know, but at the end of the day,
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we have to stop and we have to heal those emotional scars from the inside out
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like I said man looking you gotta look inward you know what did I do to cause
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this did I do anything to cause this you know and we have to face that,
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and we just not we just don't want to we just don't want to.
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So that's gonna end episode 8 I wanna thank everybody who's listening listen
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and go from there alright so until next time I will see you guys on the flip love y'all.
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